Christmas Is Coming And My SPD Goes Nuts!

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Hey everyone! It’s Christmas time once again and everywhere I look I see those with Sensory Processing Disorder going crazy!

Why? Because when folks with SPD get stressed, our symptoms come out even more than usual.

It’s normal!

Most people experience stress during the holidays, so it is “normal” for us with SPD to experience stress too, but unlike others, our stress is doubled. Again you ask why? It’s because not only do we have to do more activities/chores, we also have panic attacks because of the lines in the stores, the lights on the Christmas tree creates headaches and fatigue, and the sound of ripping paper, crowds talking, people eating makes us want to run and hide.

All of these normal SPD triggers are piled on top of what “normal” people experience during the holidays! Even the strongest person would be slightly nuts with all this going on at the same time!

So what can we do?

Honestly, the only answer to that question is: what ever you were doing before the holidays that helped your SPD, keep doing it even more!

As life feels more and more out of control, be firm and focused on doing what helps your body.

Commit to your sensory diet and seriously set aside time to be in your sanctuary. Constantly keep an inner eye on what your body is saying to you.

Use your sensory tools everywhere you go and in every situation, even if you don’t think you “need” it. Because the more you use them, the more you’ll build up, what I call, a “sensory reserve”, so that when you do get into a situation that really triggers you’re SPD, then your body will have a fuller tank, instead of drawing from the bottom.

Above all, be careful with your time…

I know that there are a LOT of activities during the holidays! We all have relatives, friends, and co-workers who expect us to be doing certain things during the holidays, but that doesn’t mean we should fill every inch of our lives with activities.

Don’t be afraid to say No to the minor stuff, so you can have time, energy, and sanity for the important stuff!

I know it’s hard… I am a born people pleaser, so saying No is not easy at all! But we need to be an advocate for our own body and our own sanity. Because if we don’t stand up for what our body needs, who will?

Time to take a break…

Really there are always a few things that we can take a break from. For instance, I will be taking a break from blogging for a while. I will not be posting any posts on this site nor on my website until after the new year.

I really wish I could keep writing through the holidays, because I really like writing my blog, but I know that I will NOT have the time, the energy, or the brain capacity.

And that’s the way with all activities… we want to do them, but our energy and ability is limit, therefore our time is limited.

Take a few minutes to examine what you are doing. Figure out what things are really, really important, what things aren’t so much, and then decide to take a short break from some of those things.

In the meantime…

I know holidays are stressful, but don’t let the stress overshadow the fun and the memories.

Where ever you are, what ever your doing, enjoy that moment to the fullest! Stretch your limitations a little and don’t forget to treasure the people you love!

Our SPD can help others see their world in a better way. So try not to get constantly frustrated at your SPD and allow God to work through your SPD during this holiday season. It’s hard, but it is well worth the effort.

I’m going to do more than survive this Christmas and New Years… I’m going to savor it! I hope that we all will do the same!


 

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My new website is: Annettanesler.com  (moving permanently soon after January 31th)

I Cannot Tell a Lie… The Lies of Self-Help Books Part 1

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Every business book. Every self-help book. Every motivational speaker, at some point, start making promises-

“If you set these goals, then you’ll be successful.”

“All you need to do is buy this product and your life will be on the right track.”

“Take a few minutes to do this or do that and I guarantee youre life, your heart, your pinky fingers will feel better.”

All of these “self-help” promises are everywhere, in different shapes and sizes.

The question I keep asking is: Are they telling me the truth?

I have read a lot of business books, recording books, and music books in my time, and every one of them makes promises like these. That’s a lot of books if you think about it making basically the same statements.

So which one is true?

One pit that self-help book writers fall into is: “What works for me, must work for them, right?”

The promises they make in their books are based on what has worked for them in their lives. But they have never experienced health problems, or had to take care of an ailing mom in their twenties, or even had the diagnoses of Sensory Processing Disorder as I have.

Their methods of success are based off of their own experiences, and that may work for some, but doesn’t work for others.

They say, “If you do this, then this will happen.” That is a promise, a statement that is either true or false, and it is ultimately up to us to determine which it is.

When I write my blog’s about the independent music business, I make it clear that it isn’t my way or the highway. Each person is different. Each person is being led on their own unique path by God himself. The only promise that we all can use and depend on is God’s word, where you can find God’s truth, God’s character, and God’s love!

So honestly, I refuse to lie to you!

I refuse to make promises that I can’t keep! My yes is Yes and my no is No. This is a rule that I not only obey in my personal life, but my business one as well.

Don’t separate your personal rules from your business ones, because nothing is just business in this world!

Now, I’m not saying that ALL those “self-help” books or “how to succeed in business” books are just a bunch of lies and have no worth what so ever (some of them, yes, but not all of them).

What I am saying is this:

Be careful what you believe is true about your life and your business if it is not seen through the lenses of God!

And that is the truth!


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God bless! ~ Annetta Nesler

The Blessings of Sensory Processing Disorder- Part One

For those with Sensory Processing Disorder it’s hard to look past all the limitations and all the struggles to see the good side of SPD.

Is there really a good side to SPD? Can SPD ever be a blessing?- The answer is yes!

A while back I posted another article on my first site telling about how my SPD helped save a little kittens life. If your interested in reading that later, just click HERE.

But saving a kittens life is not the only blessing of SPD. This post is the first part of many blogs to come showing the good side of SPD and how it helps us be the people we need to be!

Noticing the Small Blessings-

My Sparkle Blessing

A while back, as I was leaving for the store, I happened to look down and notice a small light coming from the floor. Leaning down, I noticed that it was a tiny sparkle from a piece of decorative tissue paper.

My sensitivity to light and color caused me to see this small beautiful blessing that was laying on my dinning room carpet, that most of my family would never see.

It was so colorful and cheerful sitting there on my dirty carpet. It was as if Jesus was trying to remind me that there was beauty in this dirty, difficult world.

Noticing the Small Struggles-

Rose Blessing

Later that same day, when I was walking into the grocery store, a bit of red caught my eye. There on the pavement lay a single rose petal.

It was so beautiful laying on the hard pavement and the wind made it look as if it was shivering in the cold.

My heart was moved by the sight, as if the petal illustrated how hard it is to struggle in the world and how in the midst of that struggle, there was still a beauty that wouldn’t die!

Seeing the small things that Non-SPDers miss-

As I gazed at that beautiful petal, I also noticed the people going in and out of the store so quickly. They didn’t even stop, let alone notice the small beautiful petal that was right there in front of them.

A lot of people who don’t have SPD move very fast in this world. In fact, they move so fast that they are often numb to what is around them. They are blind to the small things!

Sensitivity isn’t always a curse-

You see, I noticed the rose petal and the sparkle on the floor because I notice everything. My SPD causes me to notice every color, every smell, every movement, every sound; everything that people often never see.

My SPD causes me to slow down. The world is overwhelming to my senses, which forces me to move slower. I can’t multitask very well or I go into sensory overload.

My mind moves slower because it craves peace in a unpeaceful world.

How our SPD helps those who are blind to the small things-

I believe God works through our SPD to help others see the small things that they miss. To help them slow down and notice the small blessings God sends us.

These two blessings that I spoke about in this post are just small objects that people missed. If objects are missed by people, then how much more are they blind to the small needs of those around them.

Because we who have SPD move slower than most, we notice the small needs of people. We notice the people who get left behind by a fast moving world.

So instead of focusing on the bad side of SPD, notice the good side and how God can use you and your SPD to be the one who slows down this fast moving world.

When you see a blessing or a person in need, don’t keep it to yourself, but step forward, reach out to the person in need and share that need with the people around you!

SPD may limit us in some ways, but SPD also beautifully transforms our world, making us see the small beautiful blessing in things and people!

The Blessings of Sensory Processing Disorder- Part One

For those with Sensory Processing Disorder it’s hard to look past all the limitations and all the struggles to see the good side of SPD.

Is there really a good side to SPD? Can SPD ever be a blessing?- The answer is yes!

A while back I posted another article telling about how my SPD helped save a little kittens life. If your interested in reading that later, just click HERE.

But saving a kittens life is not the only blessing of SPD. This post is the first part of many blogs to come showing the good side of SPD and how it helps us be the people we need to be!

Noticing the Small Blessings-

My Sparkle Blessing

A while back, as I was leaving for the store, I happened to look down and notice a small light coming from the floor. Leaning down, I noticed that it was a tiny sparkle from a piece of decorative tissue paper.

My sensitivity to light and color caused me to see this small beautiful blessing that was laying on my dinning room carpet, that most of my family would never see.

It was so colorful and cheerful sitting there on my dirty carpet. It was as if Jesus was trying to remind me that there was beauty in this dirty, difficult world.

Noticing the Small Struggles-

Rose Blessing

Later that same day, when I was walking into the grocery store, a bit of red caught my eye. There on the pavement lay a single rose petal.

It was so beautiful laying on the hard pavement and the wind made it look as if it was shivering in the cold.

My heart was moved by the sight, as if the petal illustrated how hard it is to struggle in the world and how in the midst of that struggle, there was still a beauty that wouldn’t die!

Seeing the small things that Non-SPDers miss-

As I gazed at that beautiful petal, I also noticed the people going in and out of the store so quickly. They didn’t even stop, let alone notice the small beautiful petal that was right there in front of them.

A lot of people who don’t have SPD move very fast in this world. In fact, they move so fast that they are often numb to what is around them. They are blind to the small things!

Sensitivity isn’t always a curse-

You see, I noticed the rose petal and the sparkle on the floor because I notice everything. My SPD causes me to notice every color, every smell, every movement, every sound; everything that people often never see.

My SPD causes me to slow down. The world is overwhelming to my senses, which forces me to move slower. I can’t multitask very well or I go into sensory overload.

My mind moves slower because it craves peace in a unpeaceful world.

How our SPD helps those who are blind to the small things-

I believe God works through our SPD to help others see the small things that they miss. To help them slow down and notice the small blessings God sends us.

These two blessings that I spoke about in this post are just small objects that people missed. If objects are missed by people, then how much more are they blind to the small needs of those around them.

Because we who have SPD move slower than most, we notice the small needs of people. We notice the people who get left behind by a fast moving world.

So instead of focusing on the bad side of SPD, notice the good side and how God can use you and your SPD to be the one who slows down this fast moving world.

When you see a blessing or a person in need, don’t keep it to yourself, but step forward, reach out to the person in need and share that need with the people around you!

SPD may limit us in some ways, but SPD also beautifully transforms our world, making us see the small beautiful blessing in things and people!

Support Local Artists… Support Local Quality!

 

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I will admit it’s easy to go on the big online sites and purchase your Christmas gifts, but I’d like to encourage you to instead brighten a local artists spirit this Christmas…

The Benefit of Buying from Local Artists/Dealers

When you buy from a local artist it’s not going into a huge company and getting lost in the shuffle. Each and every dollar spent on local items goes towards supporting them, their family, and all that they give you year round. It blesses their hearts and their lives in a very personal and special way.

A Unique, One of a Kind, Gift

Local artists spend a lot of time gathering, creating, and prepping merchandise that is unique and geared towards adding to your life. Every time I sell a CD or a Victorian Beaded Flower, I feel like I am sharing a piece of my heart with that person. A piece that took years to create.

Each item in my store and in other local artists sites are created with love. My CD took five years to complete. I have been perfecting my Victorian Beaded Flowers for years. And my Songstress mugs are just simply cool (well they are).

So, when your trying to find that certain special gift for someone you love, please consider buying a product that is made with love! I guarantee, you will not only bring joy to the gift receiver, but you’ll also bring joy to those who worked hard to bring you the quality you expect.

God bless and have a merry Christmas!

~Annetta Nesler

 

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The Importance of Sanctuary For Those With Sensory Processing Disorder

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No matter how many people I talk to who have Sensory Processing Disorder, they always say something like, “I need a place to relax!” or “When I was overwhelmed yesterday, I totally escaped under my weighted blanket.”

This world is overwhelming. Too often during the day, we with SPD reach the breaking point. When this happens, it not only effects us that day, but it can wear us out for days afterwards.

The reality is we SPDers should never underestimate the importance of sanctuary.

The term “Sanctuary” hearkens back to the days of the old church. Churches would offer sanctuary to those who were fleeing from the law, desiring shelter, or needed a place to get away from the world for a while. This church sanctuary would be limited to a certain amount of time, usually a few days.

For us with SPD the time we spend in our sanctuary is even smaller. Usually a few hours. Which means that we need to spend time in our sanctuary even if we don’t “feel” worn out. The daily sanctuary time refills our SPD energy tank and is stored away until we really need it.

So what makes a sanctuary?

Everyone is different in what they find relaxing/soothing. But there are a few key things that go into everyone’s sanctuary.

Alone!

Don’t get me wrong, I am an extrovert… I love being with people! But it is very important for those with SPD to spend time alone. To have that time to refocus and reconnect with their environment without anyone else. It’s important for our brains, our hearts, and our sanity to be alone for a little while… especially after an overload!

Doors and walls!

I don’t mean that you have to have a door and walls to make a sanctuary. What I mean is that there has to be something that gives you a barrier between the world and yourself. Whether your sanctuary is a whole empty house in the mornings, a private nook in the library, or a small room in your basement, your sanctuary needs to have something that separates you from the world for a little while.

Comforting items.

Each sanctuary needs to have items that bring you comfort or joy. It could be a weighted blanket, a special fidget toy, basically anything that is safe and comforting for your senses.

Things to Keep Your Mind Busy.

Now, don’t be scared, I don’t mean you have to be a busy bee or have to have a To-Do list sitting next to you. I mean while you chill in your sanctuary your mind needs something to do too. Try watching a comforting movie or TV show. Or play a game on your computer. Read a book or listen to an audio book.

There are many more things that make a sanctuary, but I’m sure you get the idea.

No matter what your sanctuary is like, never take it for granted. If you’re feeling tired, low, or irritable, it may be a sign you need to try to spend more time in it.

I know life tends to get in way a lot! Life takes over and deprives us of our sanctuary too many times, but setting aside the time to spend in your sanctuary is worth the effort.

Your body and your senses will thank you in the end.

 

The Importance of Sanctuary For Those With Sensory Processing Disorder

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No matter how many people I talk to who have Sensory Processing Disorder, they always say something like, “I need a place to relax!” or “When I had a meltdown yesterday, I totally escaped under my weighted blanket.”

This world is overwhelming. Too often during the day, we with SPD reach the breaking point. When this happens, it not only effects us that day, but it can wear us out for days afterwards.

The reality is we SPDers should never underestimate the importance of sanctuary.

The term “Sanctuary” hearkens back to the days of the old church. Churches would offer sanctuary to those who were fleeing from the law, desiring shelter, or needed a place to get away from the world for a while. This church sanctuary would be limited to a certain amount of time, usually a few days.

For us with SPD the time we spend in our sanctuary is even smaller. Usually a few hours. Which means that we need to spend time in our sanctuary even if we don’t “feel” worn out. The daily sanctuary time refills our SPD energy tank and is stored away until we really need it.

So what makes a sanctuary?

Everyone is different in what they find relaxing/soothing. But there are a few key things that go into everyone’s sanctuary.

Alone!

Don’t get me wrong, I am an extrovert… I love being with people! But it is very important for those with SPD to spend time alone. To have that time to refocus and reconnect with their environment without anyone else. It’s important for our brains, our hearts, and our sanity to be alone for a little while… especially after an overload!

Doors and walls!

I don’t mean that you have to have a door and walls to make a sanctuary. What I mean is that there has to be something that gives you a barrier between the world and yourself. Whether your sanctuary is a whole empty house in the mornings, a private nook in the library, or a small room in your basement, your sanctuary needs to have something that separates you from the world for a little while.

Comforting items.

Each sanctuary needs to have items that bring you comfort or joy. It could be a weighted blanket, a special fidget toy, basically anything that is safe and comforting for your senses.

Things to Keep Your Mind Busy.

Now, don’t be scared, I don’t mean you have to be a busy bee or have to have a To-Do list sitting next to you. I mean while you chill in your sanctuary your mind needs something to do too. Try watching a comforting movie or TV show. Or play a game on your computer. Read a book or listen to an audio book.

There are many more things that make a sanctuary, but I’m sure you get the idea.

No matter what your sanctuary is like, never take it for granted. If you’re feeling tired, low, or irritable, it may be a sign you need to try to spend more time in it.

I know life tends to get in way a lot! Life takes over and deprives us of our sanctuary too many times, but setting aside the time to spend in your sanctuary is worth the effort.

Your body and your senses will thank you in the end.