Hello, I’m taking a break for a bit… and here’s why:

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Hello everyone. I will be taking a short break from posting weekly.


Because I will be focusing all my energies preparing for a very exciting opportunity.

On May 16th and 17th from 10am-6pm in Janesville WI, I will be a vendor at the Janesville Renaissance Faire!

I will be:

  • Performing at different times throughout the two days.
  • Doing demo’s of just how I create my Victorian Beaded Flowers.
  • Selling my CD- Songstress- PLUS you’ll be able to listen to a preview of the CD before you purchase.
  • Special combo deals featuring my CD and my mugs- perfect for gifts or just something special for yourself.
  • And finally the featured merchandise of the weekend: My Victorian Beaded Flowers- Plus all new flower types and styles that might never appear in my websites store (see picture).

Victorian Beaded Flowers Collage, Featured at the Janesville Renaissance Faire- May 16th and 17th

If you are in the area during this time (or want to make a special trip) be sure to mark your calendars! I would love to see you there! And I promise it will be worth the time and effort.

Here is the link for more info on the Faire: Janesville Renaissance Faire info

For those of you who are unable to attend, you shall be missed, but while you wait for me to come back, be sure to check out some older posts located in the side bar.

See you after May 17th.

God bless!


Adult’s with Sensory Processing Disorder- Playing Two Roles In Our Health

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If you’ve done any internet searches on Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), you’ve probably noticed that there are a lot more sites on parenting a child with SPD than living with SPD. This makes it tough for us adults who have grown up and still have SPD, or never knew we had SPD until we were adults

So this post is for all of you who are adults dealing with SPD.

Do you ever feel like you are playing both the child and the parent when dealing with your SPD? I know I have. Inside my body reacts to the stimulation around it. It reacts naturally and can react without control, like a child reacts in the moment, but we have no parent to notice this and respond. We have to be the parent that responds to how our SPD

We who are adults with Sensory Processing Disorder play two roles -both the child and the parent- the one who reacts and the one who responds to that reaction.

This makes me feel confused and causes me to think of myself almost with two sets of lenses.

The first lens- The child- or The One Who Reacts:

When my SPD is triggered, my body reacts. For instance, if there’s something noisy, like ripping paper, then my reaction is to run out of the room screaming (or at least want to). Or if something’s irritating, like a piece of clothing I am wearing, my reaction is to fiddle and wiggle with the clothing.

These two things create something else: emotions. They create frustration, anger, a withdrawn behavior and other emotions. It’s the emotions that take more work to keep in control than anything else.Quote for Playing Two Roles Post

The second lens- The parent- or The One Who Responds:

When these things happen, a child would just react and never think about how to fix or keep the reaction from going out of control. That’s where the parent comes in and they respond by giving the child sensory toys, taking the child out of the situation, and many other things. They respond and correct the situation for the best of the child.

The Problem!:

The problem with having to have two roles filled by one person (myself) is that both roles are completely opposite. So when one role (The reaction) begins to happen, we have to keep our head clear enough to do the other role (The responder). This problem is exactly why the emotional part of our SPD reaction (mentioned above) is the hardest to control, because it interferes with the responder role.

Emotions complicate everything and cloud our thinking.

So what can we do about this problem?

The first thing we can do is realize that the problem is there.

The second thing is realizing that we have to play these two roles. Realizing this, causes us to be more aware of how we can help our bodies cope with our SPD.

It’s never a simple answer, sadly, but be comforted by this: You are not alone!

All of us who are adults with SPD have to battle this and flip flop between these roles.

Take heart that you have friends who understand and don’t give up.

Learn to Relaaaax- 8 sensory relaxing tips

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To truly relax is hard when the world is constantly yelling for our attention.

For those who react to sensory input it’s easy to become overwhelmed and feel like a bottle about to pop.

For those who crave sensory input it’s hard to ignore the desire to feel, see, experience the world long enough to sit still and relax.

Let’s face it, with or without Sensory Processing Disorder, it’s hard to relax in this world!

I am the queen of nervousness. The battle to stay relaxed or to be relaxed is an on going fight and I admit it that I am horrible at setting aside time to have quality relaxation, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t learned a few tricks that work.

So here’s just a few that work for me, and might work for you too:

1. Music- Whether you are listening to music or physically playing music, music is the most relaxing thing on this planet. I may be partial being a musician, but I have noticed that people all over the world find music to be soothing, enjoyable, peps them up, and slows them down. For some rock music soothes them, for others, the pluck of a steal string guitar. Spending quality time listening to or playing an instrument helps you psychologically, and that’s a fact.

2. Laughter- Laughing is another way to relax and help our bodies. Yes, hard to believe watching a Friends episode or a Bob Newhart show helps you relax, but it has been proven that laughter lengthens your life span, relieves stress, and let’s face it… it’s pretty fun to laugh.

Relax blog Photo 13. Being still-  Now I know, being still can mean a lot of things, but what I mean by “being still” is taking some time to be still during the day. Spend an half an hour reading a book in bed or on a comfy couch. Make a concerted effort to be under a weighted blanket or lap pad. Maybe watch a good Tv show. Anything that means you aren’t going anywhere, because we spend too much of our life on the go. Be still for a while… there’s a reason why it’s a part of a bible verse, because it’s important!

4. Take a walk outside on the grass- Why am I so specific? Because studies have found that walking across a grassy field is more relaxing to the senses than walking on pavement. For some reason the pavement of a sidewalk or street is not the same as walking along slightly bumpy, smooth grass. I didn’t think it was true, until I tried it a couple days in a row, and I felt much more relaxed afterwards than walking on a sidewalk. Weird!

5. Spend time in the sun- If you don’t like the glare, wear some sunglasses, because whether you like it or not the sun is a very helpful for our mood. It relieves stress, increases vitamin D (as long as you don’t take a shower afterwards for two hours or so), and much more.  It’s also warm and warmth is a good way to encourage relaxation.

6. Run your hand through something- Get a plastic bag and fill it with sand, or beads. Feel a smooth stone or squeeze a Koosh ball. Rub a smooth ribbon or the binding of a blanket. Anything that lets the tension out.

7. Take a break- What ever seems to be bugging you right now, take a break from it. If it’s clothing, change into something more comfortable. If it’s a sound then wear headphones, earplugs, or vacate the location for a while. Some things we have to be exposed to everyday, but we should allow ourselves to take a break from those things once and a while. It’s Ok.

8. Healthy escapes- One of my favorite ways to relieve stress is to ignore my life for a little while. That’s why movies, TV shows, books and other story centered entertainment are there. Because life is stressful, boring, etc and we are only human. The trick with these is to not abuse them… too much of a good thing is never good, so be wise with your time and be healthy with your escapes.

There are many, many more, but these should get your started. If these seem so obviously true, then think of this list as friendly reminder, because we often forget the simple solutions.

Learning to judge your stress level and when/how to relax can be difficult, but keeping a watchful inner eye at your SPD and your life will help you live a better life.

How do you relax? Please feel free to share your suggestions or write a comment of at least one word on my site (a smiley face will do) to let me know how I’m doing.


5 Ways to Make Your Business Cards Stand Out (For Business’ and Non-profit Organizations)

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In this world, there are hundreds, thousands of business cards that are handed out, grabbed, and stuffed into packages. What happens to all those cards you ask? Some don’t even make it past the car or the shipment box. They get dropped through car cushions, thrown away with the bubble wrap, and just lost in the shuffle.

If the cards do manage to get home, some accomplish what they were meant to do while others, not so much. People loose interest, store it away and forget about it, or they go with another company who appears more flashy.

A business card should grab attention, in a subtle but firm way, declaring: Hey, I’m cool, look at me!

Part of that grab is the products and a lot of that grab is the look.

In order to grab someone’s attention, you have to have attention grabbing quality.

So here are a five ways to add that grab and make sure your card gets your message across:

1. Include address- Address’s are still needed on business cards, even in such a digital age as this. If your uncomfortable with including your address, consider using an abridged version (like leaving off your apt number).

Pic for Bus Card Blog 22. Be sure to include your web address in multiple places on the cards.- Don’t rely on one spot to catch their eye.

3. Make it clear, but artistic- A boring business card is easy to ignore. However a busy, cluttered business card is hard to read and unattractive, so find a happy medium.

4. Include pictures- The card should show YOU, an example of your PRODUCTS, and what you DO.

5. Go through a website that makes quality business cards- it may be tempting to create your own business cards and print them on your  own printer, but unless you have a REALLY great printer, or your just getting started with your business, you need  to have a professional printer for a professional business card. It will show your costumers you’re serious and it will look more like a business card than a piece of waste paper that their five year old created for fun… just saying it like it is, and believe me, I’ve made this very mistake in the past; it’s not pretty. I love Vistaprint.com, but there are many others out there who do the same quality work… do a search on it.

There are many more tips out there, but above all be true to your brand! Don’t do something that won’t carry you through for at least a year and half of business.

No, a business card isn’t the ultimate advertisement, but it is an important way to bring your people back to where they need to be.

The investment will pay for itself.

Love my website? I would love to have your help in sharing my website with others in an easy and tangible way. It’s EASY, just Email me with your address and I’ll mail you a packet of 10 business cards for you to hand out.

Thanks for reading!

~Annetta Nesler