Hello Readers. I haven’t written for quite a while, and here’s why:
A year ago I met a wonderful man. We dated for a couple of months, and then we got engaged and married. It went by in a bit of a blur, but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
So now, I’m a married woman. Hurray!
As you all probably know, life with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) can be hard, but being an adult, and a married one at that, adds another layer to deal with.
The first month of being married was a wonderful roller-coaster of changes, and we SPD peeps love changes, right?… NOT.
I had a new house to settle into. Thanks to a bad sensory reaction to an apartment, all my stuff had been hurriedly packed by my kind friends and stashed away in the garage until after the wedding. I had no idea which box held the rest of my clothing, my favorite decorations, etc. I just knew when I moved in, they were there, waiting to be gone through.
I had a new person (we’ll call him, JS) who was now intimately tied to my life. JS had a schedule and a life of his own to work into mine. We had to figure out how we ticked on a day to day basis, which is pretty difficult to gauge when you have SPD. One day I feel energetic and able to take on the world, the next worn out by a single trip to the mall- sigh!
Not to mention the physical, emotional and spiritual changes that take place when you join two people in holy matrimony.
Then on TOP of all this we add SPD. To say the least, I was a wreck. Arguments, meltdowns, changes in routine and eating habits… the list of hardships goes on and on.
So then the question is: Was all this pain and suffering worth getting married?
Being a Neuro typical adult is hard and lonely, and having SPD never changes that fact. The fact is EVERY adult deals with a hard transition from being married to single.
WOW- do you know what this means? It means that we who have SPD have something in common with everyone else on this planet! I don’t know about you, but that gives me a sigh of relief. The difference for us is that it takes more time, but the time and hard work is well worth the pay off.
My husband is the partner I have always wished for. He is not just my friend, but my team mate. It’s no longer me going up against the dark forces of SPD and the world, but it’s him and I linking arms and battling it out together.